Thursday, July 23, 2009

I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

im beginnning to dislike my boyfriends dog (he is 6) if i had my own way i wouldnt want to live with him as hes a big black standard poodle. his hairs get everywhere, he is disobedient, and when i tell this to my boyf it casues an argument and he says dont lecture me, but i pay all the bills/rent, i fact is underneath deep down i dont want to live with a dog like this. he brought in fleas 2 wks ago, we're treatin him with frontline and the house but i am begnning to resent the dog for this, i know its not his fault, but i cant help it, i dont want him near me. i still look after him, feed him, let out when my boyf is at work. he poos up on the patio outsdie the back door, when he's got a massive garden, i rented the house we live in for him, so he could have a garden and he dosent even use it, he alwasy just stands@backdoor. he creates so much dirt and mess.



i think hed b better off with a family who could devote time to him but hes not my dog



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

I often rescue dogs I don't particularly like and would not want as my own but your issues with the poodle are pretty petty and sounds like a fibber.



Bring me the dog Il take care of it.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

So clare...you registered here today to tell us about your boyfriend's dog? Um...I think the boyfriend should keep the dog and dump YOU. Dogs don't talk smack.



Oh and...exactly WHAT was your question?



ETA: If this was genuine post, I'm truly sorry. Thought you were a troll. Please, accept my apology.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Obviously your boyfriend loves his dog. I'm sorry if it were me in his situation that was pretty much being asked to chose between you and my dogs I would ask if you needed help in packing your bags or move out myself with my dogs.



It looks like to love him the dog is a part of the package. You have to decide if you care for him enough to put up with the dog or whether it's time to move on.



Good luck with whatever you decide.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Honey, your issues are deeper than the dog or the fleas...it's the boyfriend and the resentment you feel toward him because you are having to be financially responsible. You've become a parent to an immature boy and his dog.



Please don't take it out on the dog...but sounds like it's time to get rid of both of 'em and live in peace in your own apt. for a while. Good luck!



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

This is odd....poodles don't normally shed hair!! Perhaps the dog is stressed....it could be that he senses your dislike of him. You say he poohs on the patio....well, at least he's doing it outside, and not indoors.



He's obviously getting disobedient because of the stress....and he's picking it up from you. Try and make an effort with the dog....I'm sure with a little time and patience, you will both learn to live with each other!!



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

You are obviously not happy there but the dog is so why don't you MOVE OUT !!!!! solved.....



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

It sounds like your BF may chose between you and the dog. Be careful what you ask for... However, go borrow the book "Marley and Me" - it talks about a dog that is untrained, and the related issued.



I assume that you don't dislike the dog, but you dislike the way that your BF manages the dog. I don't expect a change, but I suggest a written contract of understanding, which should include what he will do and what your responsbilities are for the dog.



1. Get the dog groomed once a month (he pays for it).



2. Walk the dog 30 min., twice a day ... both walk together.



3. Take the dog to training (he pays for it) once a week.



4. Both train the dog 10 min. every day (you in the morning, him in the afternoon).



How your BF treats his dog is a relection of how he will treat ... your kids. Better to get HIM trained now.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

soundslike your boyfriend needs to spend more time looking after his own dog! hes pooing just outside the patio door for attention. your boyfriend needs to go back to basic training with the dog and reward it when he goes outside for his poo! and then get your boyfriend too clean it up straight away! he needs to do his fair share stand your ground . good luck!



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

I don't think this question belongs here, I think you'd find more empathy in the 'relationships' section.



Sounds to me like you're jealous of your bf relationship with his dog - who he has had in his life longer than you!



If your bf is working, I don't see why it is your sole responsibility to pay the rent %26amp; bills...but that would be another issue for 'relationships'.



I think it sounds like you are on a bit of a 'downer' and your frustrations are all focusing on the dog, rather than the genuine root cause.



What would you do if this was your bfs' child? Jealousy is a horrible attribute and one which I fight most of the time within myself....but that too would be for the 'relationship' section! lol



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Hi Clare



I can understand that you feel annoyed but as you said in your message "it is not the dog's fault" He doesn't know that he is annoying you and maybe he is doing some things for love and attention. Take time out to play some games with him and tricks with treats (poodles are very intelligent) and maybe you will learn to love him a bit more. Encourage him and walk with him into the garden to do his number twos as dogs tend to go in the same place when they get the scent. At the end of the day you don't really have much choice but to get used to the dog otherwise it sounds like you will have to make a choice?



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

I think you need to accept the dog was there before you. Your bf loves it, maybe you should try harder? Instead of shutting him out when your bf goes to work, take him a walk. Build a relationship this dog. You may grow to love him.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Dogs need a lot of care and attention. This is same for every dog. If your bf imputed all the care issues to you then he is wrong. This responsibility should be shared. In this case it seems that your bf was looking for a dog sitter rather than a girl friend. But on the other hand it seems that you've never had a dog and now all these issues seems to you as a burden.



In this case I think the best thing to do is to persuade your bf to share the dog care issues with you. To get rid of him is not a good idea and if it is not your dog then the decision belongs to your bf.



Good luck



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

i think its a case of put up or shut up ,obviously your b/friend is happy to live like this, your need to be firm with the dog let him know who's boss, buy a repellent spray and spray it where you don't want him to toilet. ( don't tell your b/friend just do it he doesn't seem bothered ).



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

The issue here is your bf sees his dog as equal importance to you or not higher and he should be listening to you regarding the problems your having with it.



In a sense, the issue is more about your relationship with him than the dog, that is secondary.



he doesn't value your opinion, in fact he sees your comments as as attack on his judgement so it becomes an arguement.



So to put all your questions points into one sentance, you pay the bills, you run the house, you look after his paets and yet you come AFTER the Dog?



I think you know what you should do.



To the first guy (well above) we all have an equal right to join and ask whatever question we want, this one is no more or less valid than many others on here.



You are not the judge and Jury on here.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Dogs are just like children - you make your boyfriend choose, and you're going to lose.



I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want my dogs.



I'm sorry you're having problems with this dog, but you could probably fix most of them yourself if you'd just take the time.



The dog doesn't go potty where you want him to - SO instead of getting angry about it (whichis only going to make the problem get worse) leash the dog and take him outside and stand in the spot where you want him to go potty. When he goes, praise the heck out of him and give him a liver treat. Let me tell you, liver treats are the fastest way to get a dog to do anything you want them to. They LOVE them!



If the dog doesn't listen, your approach is probably wrong. You should never raise your voice - that won't get what you want, that will only reinforce the dog's bad behavior.



Consider taking the dog to obedience class - you'll learn how to communicate with each other. It sounds like you need training just as much as he does.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

if you pay the rent and bills etc then you have the rite to call the shots, if you don't want this dog, you don't have to put up with it, tell your guy how you feel and tell him to deal with the dog himself if he wants to keep it, otherwise give it to someone else.



stand up for yourself!



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

An ex-boyfriend didn't like my dog so I moved out. We did have other issues in our relationship too, but the dog was the source of a lot of arguements. My dog and I are a pair. I know he can be difficult at times, but my dog was with me all through university and is a fundamental part of my life. Having said that, if your boyfriend is not pulling his weight looking after his dog, that is a different matter. Perhaps you should explain to him that the dog is his responsibilty and if he needs to get a dog sitter/dog walker so be it - that is not your job. It's a difficult position you are in, but don't forget how much people love their dogs.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Poodles do not shed hair.



The flea problem is being brought under control.



Why do you pay the bills and rent when your boyfriend is working? This needs to be discussed.



If your boyfriend won't train the dog then you MUST. Use treats to reward him when he does something correctly, Start with sit. Put him on a leader, tell him to Sit. Lift his head with the leader and rest your hand on his bottom. Do not press. He should sit. Reward him at once with a treat. spend five minutes max doing this then play with him with a toy.



Do this several times a day until he is doing it off the leader.



Then try down etc... Walk this dog. do not just put him out on the patio. Play with him and his toys. Treat him a bit like a child.



Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you are not picking a fight or criticising, tell him how you feel. You need to work with both of them and boyfriend needs to start contributing to the effort. Once the dog is trained you may feel that you want to keep him and give your boyfriend the boot.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

If you didn't want the dog then don't take the boyfriend. They are a package deal. Issue with fleas: People will bring in fleas as well. When you have a lawn/garden you have fleas. Deal with it.



Train the dog to do his business in the area you would like him to do it. He will learn. Tell boyfriend to help with the living expenses or get out. He sounds like a bum. Lastly, you need to



grow up dear. You sound immature.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

i have never heard anything so selfish in all my life you knew he had the dog wehen you moved in why did you bother moving in personally if you talked about one of my dogs like that id keep the dog and get rid of you maybe if you spent time in the garden he would spend more time out there



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

I have always had a dog , but I've always trained my dog so it did cause any upset to others . Your boyfriend has not and is lazy about his duty to you and his dog . Well he needs a wake-up call . it's as simple as this , you pay so you have the say . Either he trains his dog better or he and his dog goes , but you have to be serious about it and back your demand up or you boyfriend will just shrug it off . Fence the dog off from the patio and have a gateway to let him inside the house when he his trained . The boyfriend is not worth the stress your under !



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

Why dont you give yourself three months to think all this over and meanwhile put some personal effort into training the dog, animals sense when you dont like them and by doing some fun things with the dog, like frisbees in the park or similar you may find you will bond with it.



Not the dogs' fault you find him a nuisance, nag the boyfriend to be stricter with him.



I love dogs but im beginning to dislike his dog?

hi Claire,



i can understand you being annoyed but its not the poor dogs fault, it sounds like no offence intended that your responsible for the up keep of the dog, the house and looking after the dog why B/f is at work, and its become a chore for you,if you love your b/f and he loves you, then i suggest you talk about this like adults and say look hun, i dont mind looking afte ryour dog, but could be come to some compromise on it not being me all the time, share the load of this dog on both of you, not one person,its rare for a poodle to shed its fur like this as anothe rmember says the dog could be stressed and also picking up friction between you, and b/f about the dog,as reagrds him not going into the garden, is this the first time the dogs had a garden to go on?,as if it is he prob ha sbeen used to in the past going to the loo on the patio or concrete, and doesnt know hes allowed to go on the grass,and to be honest its easier to clean on the concrete, as an of a dog i know lol.



hope this helps and wish you all the very best,



also wouldnt hurt getting the dog checked at a verts for a complete check up to make sure its not stress making it lose its fur.



take care and i truely hope all works out for you all.



as the dogs 6 sound sto me like hes been stuck into a routine witht he b/f and your trying to change that and the dog doesnt know whitch way to turn.

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